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         No Apologies
Posted Thursday, January 02, 2014
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apol·o·gy
a statement saying that you are sorry about something : an expression of regret for having done or
said something wrong
apologies : an expression of regret for not being able to do something
: something that is said or written to defend something that other people criticize
    Just recently, Melissa Harris Perry apologized for something that was
    said on her MSNBC weekend news program.  Although Ms. Perry
    was not the perceived offender, she apologized for joining in with her
    guests about what some deemed offensive.  It was her show and
    possibly, could/should have behaved better.  Nonetheless, she
    apologized once, twice and several times afterward.  I suppose she felt
    that the repeat apologies were needed; not for her offender(s) but for
    the sake of her job.  (Martin Bashir apologized for his statements
    against former governor Sarah Palin, and now is a former MSNBC
    employee.)

    Actor and activist Alec Baldwin apologized for yelling an anti-gay slur
    at the paparazzi.  While there is never an excuse, I can only imagine
    that Mr. Baldwin was truly upset, as he would receive plenty
    backlash.  Not necessarily from the GLAAD and/or LGBT
    communities, but from his Hollywood friends, coworkers, sponsors,
    producers and directors.

    Comedian and NBC late night host Jimmy Kimmel apologized for a
    questionable skit about what kids think and their reaction to what adults
say in their presence.  I am not a true fan of Kimmel's nor am I an avid watcher of his late night
show, but in his defense, the skit was all in good fun and was not ignorantly or purposefully
offensive.  Perhaps he apologized not for anything he did, but for the sake of his job.  He
apologized for the responses from the innocence.

    Toronto Mayor Rob Ford apologized for lying about his use of
    crack cocaine.  Would it be offensive to ask why are the mass
    majority of crack users much heavier in body weight?  Was Mr.
    Ford using crack while taking the city's numbers from red to
    black?  In this instance, he should have apologized, but if it were
    me, I would keep my job while seeking treatment.
I do not think people should feel pressured to apologize for their statements.  Why apologize if it is not sincere.

    Phil Robertson from the reality show Duck Dynasty made remarks that
    were upsetting to both gays and Blacks.  When interviewed by Drew
    Magary from GQ magazine, he was asked, "What, in your mind, is
    sinful?"  Mr. Robertson told Mr. Magary what was more sexually
    desirable for him.  He did not say he hated gay people.  Later, Robertson
    made statements about what he witnessed (with his own eyes) while
    working with Black people.  He did not say use a racial epithet when
    describing Blacks, but he DID use a derogatory term when referencing
    Whites.  Perhaps he owes someone an apology, but certainly not me.

    Have we had enough, or did we learn anything?

President Obama apologized for saying that after ObamaCare goes into effect, people could keep their same health care
plans.  Yes, he was wrong.  An apology was made and those affected are forced to choose other plans.  Is it unfair?  
No.  Are the other plans better or worse than their old plans?  Certainly.  Was Medicare this easy when first
implemented?  Hardly.

Paul Deen apologized for using a derogatory term when describing Black people.  Personally, I was not offended, but for
those that were, was the apology needed and/or appreciated?

I am tired of all the retractions of what someone deems upsetting and/or politically incorrect.

Some people just have diarrhea at the mouth and simply not able to taper what comes spilling out.  Sometimes, some
people need to say how they feel and others need to hear it.

Stop filling your mouth with blood when your heart and tongue is itching to reveal your truest thoughts.  As Dave
Chappelle's character Clayton Bigsby the wizard said during his klan meeting, "
Open up your heart and let that hate
out.
"

Get that pain off your chest and release the stress.

    If someone feels an apology is needed, then I say shame on him or her.  
    Shame on them that their skin is so thin that they believe an apology is
    due when their feelings are hurt.  In this day and age, we should be over
    the fact that racism and other prejudices exist and will ALWAYS exist till
    the end of time.  Yes, I would like to have hope and optimism that the
    hatred will end, but I know better.  I am a realist.

    Personally, I appreciate when the hate is revealed because then the truth
    is out and I know not to support or socialize with such ignorance.  I have
    a choice.  We have freedom of speech as well as a freedom of choice
    and when the hate is revealed, you know and now know what to do.

When someone's feelings are hurt, I get tired of the senseless defensive line that we have freedom of speech to say what
we want to say.  Although we do have that freedom, it does not mean we should act on it.  Sometimes, we should just
forbid to reveal our ignorance; being peaceful.
The first amendment to the constitution reads as follows:

    Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise
    thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to
    assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

We have freedom!

    Yes, we have freedom, but who or where does it say that it is important
    to open our mouths and allow ignorance to be revealed every chance we
    get?

    We need to stop opening our mouth every chance we get, especially
    when the red camera light is on.  (Everyone knows that video cameras
    are everywhere and almost everyone owns and carries a camera with a
    recorder.)

    Just because we have and/or hold a prejudice against someone or
    something, it does not mean we are obligated to behave one way or the
    other.  As someone once told me, "Like it or not, that is just who I am."

Well, I do not like it but at least now, I know.  I do not need an explanation and certainly not an apology.  As I said, at
least I know.

Either choose to reveal or conceal, but whatever you do, do not apologize, as most apologizes are damaging and really
crappy as well as insincere.

Alternatively, least we forget some things are just a misunderstanding and taken too far.  Likewise, some things need to
be said, but not everything is racist and not everything deserves the attention we give it.
Here is your apology!